Your close friend is getting married and you are super happy for her. You are busy planning her big day but somewhere at the back of your mind, you are having mixed feelings.
She has found her soulmate and that’s good for her. But what will happen to you?
Your social media feed will be bombarded with friend’s pre-wedding shoots, honeymoon photographs or posts about their eternal love.
But, here we are to cheer you up with valid reasons that indicate that life is so much more than marriages!
Movies and novels have made you feel that marriage is important. Whether we would like to accept it or not, we have dreamt about a beautiful love story that we have read about or watched. We secretly wish for that dream to come true or have waited (or are still waiting) for a person to ‘complete’ us. But why? Is our life defined by the existence of a person we have not even met? Let’s keep all those rosy notions about marriage aside and think pragmatically what marriage is all about.
Are you ready to make this life-long commitment? Have you realised what are your expectations for this relationship and from your partner? There is no point in forcing things that are meant to happen only when the time is right.
It’s a part of life and not life! Our lives start revolving around the idea of finding a soulmate and by the time we enter our mid-twenties, people around us start reminding us about ‘the right time’ to get hitched. But no one tells that marriage, like education or a career, is just a part of life. You create your own happiness. Marrying someone will only add to your existing happy world.
Realising your dream is very important. It’s completely okay to have some other priorities in life and marriage can wait for some time. Want to shift to a new city or switch to another field? Marriage should never stop you from realising your dreams. If you are waiting to get married to chase your dream and want to experience everything while holding your partner’s hand—trust us, you are making a mistake. Whether you are married or not, always have your own life.
Your husband or marriage is not your identity. Marriage would surely add a new dimension to your life but you need to earn respect for yourself, be capable enough to manage your own finances and be your own hero at the end of the day.
Remember, age really is just a number. One should get married in mid-twenties, have kids before turning 30 and your life is complete only after having kids—don’t let such thoughts stop you from leading your life the way you want to. One of the most unfortunate things you can do to yourself is to settle down with someone who is not the right person for you and compromise for the rest of your life. Whether you are 25, 30 or 45 years old, get married only when you know he or she is worth spending the rest of your life with.
The real accomplishment. The real accomplishment is not in getting married; it’s about having a successful relationship for the rest of your life. It is easier to get married but difficult to happily stay married for your entire life. It is about willingly shouldering all the responsibilities and witnessing the good and bad days together.
It’s the time we stop treating marriage as a milestone to be achieved before turning 30 in life and concentrate on doing what we really want to do, after all, we only live once!