It is said that continuing to be angry at something is similar to drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The reason we are not happy in life is the anger we choose to hold on to. To let go of anger and resentment is a way to lead a happier life.
Here are some ways to help you let go of anger and to start living a happy and peaceful life.
Change you mindset
You need to change your negative mindset into positive. The negative thoughts have the command over a person’s mind and fester on it like an open wound. Whenever your mind is focusing on the bad things the people did to you, shift those thoughts immediately to the things that they did well for you.
With a positive mindset, you can become more tolerant and accept even if things don’t work in your favor or you really end up never growing to like the person back. You learn to build your own happiness by becoming more positive.
Let it all out
Resentment cannot go away if you don’t let go, it only keeps building up inside you. It is like you are the pressure cooker on the stove and it will all eventually burst out and leave your mental health and well-being damaged.
You might be feeling that being angry is the right thing to do. You avoid being confrontational or bothersome and think it is best to bottle up your frustrations.
The best thing to do however is to vent, you don’t have to lose control over the person or situation but venting will really help your anger. Confronting will free you from disputes and mental conflicts and provide you with peace.
Connect with positive people
Our surroundings affect our behavior. When you chose to be associated with the optimistic people their positivity will reflect on you. Your behavior is actually the average of the five people you spend the most time with, this is what Jim Rohn, the motivational speaker suggests.
This is evidently true and so you want to check if the average created would be a positive one for you or not. If you realize you are with more negativity than you should be surrounded, making you hold on to anger and resentment, it is better to reconsider the people you spend the most time with.
Pay attention to self-love
Your priority should be yourself. What others say or do is out of your control. Most of the people fail to understand this and they try to live every day trying to fix and control situations that are not in their control. And when things don’t work out, they end up being angry or resentful.
Shift your focus on yourself rather being angry on others because you are in control of your mind and thoughts. Ask yourself what can make you happy in the very moment and self-indulge.
Tell yourself to not add hate in the world
Isn’t there enough hate in this world? There are so many instances of anger and hatred causing far dangerous impacts even pure evils. You can find it in national, cultural and personal levels.
It is not just about the hate that exists in the global levels but also about changing hate that exists at the personal level. You can contribute by refusing to add any more of that hatred into this world.
We chose to make the world a better place to live by avoiding anger and hatred at the same time it improves our health and wellness.
Anger and resentment are of destructive nature and not just harms us but even our surrounding and everyone in it. But it is for us to choose not to be a slave to this emotion. You can make your life a happier one.